"You have BEAUTIFUL ankle bones!"

That is what Jenna's rheumatologist said to her at her 3 month appointment this past Wednesday. "You have BEAUTIFUL ankle bones!" Who would have thought that would be music to our ears? Before she started her exam I told her that while I don't think Jenna is at 100%, I still feel she is the best she has been since her diagnosis in August of 2008. After examining Jenna, the doctor agreed. Jenna is doing GREAT. I expressed my concern over the fact that she is still experiencing periodic pain and stiffness. When a storm blows through, when the temperature drops, sometimes when she wakes up or after a car ride. I asked her, "Is this just her normal? Is this okay?" She assured me that yes, this is okay and perfectly normal. Even a child that goes into remission can still experience all of this. She does, after all, still, have arthritis. Even if she hits remission, she won't be cured. Sadly, surprisingly, this is music to my ears. I could not be more happy. She does have an awful lot of tightness behind her knees. Again, perfectly normal for a child with arthritis. Her homework before her next appointment is to get that stretched out and be able to at least reach her ankles with her fingertips. Right now she can't even sit up, she is so tight. Now, you may be thinking, "Wow she is doing so great she must be ready to taper meds!" Yeah, nope......read on.....

Jenna also had her 3 month ophthalmology appointment on Wednesday. We didn't get terrible news, but it wasn't what I had hoped and prayed for either. After nearly two years of hearing Dr. Wallace say clear and quiet, I heard the dreadful word CELLS. She isn't in a full blown Uveitis flare right now. He assured me that this could go either way. We could come back and she will be in a full blown flare. Or, these few cells could just go away all on their own. Not terrible, but not so great either. Had her eyes still been clear and quiet both doctors would have been comfortable tapering meds. Not now. These few cells have taken that chance away. Even when we go back, if they are gone, it will be risky to try tapering now. We are so blessed with amazing doctors. Dr. Wallace took the time to very patiently reassure me that since she isn't having any major, adverse side effects from the meds she is on, keeping her on them right now is really the best thing. Overall she is doing well on them, taking her off of them right now could be disastrous. We are also blessed that he understands the dangers of steroid eye drops. We are not putting her on a course of drops at this time. We are waiting to see what happens. When we go back to have her rechecked, if the cells are still there, then we will start drops. AND GET HER OFF OF THEM QUICKLY. So very thankful that he is educated on this. Sadly, many doctors are not. They, for whatever reason, don't understand the dangers of these drops being used long term. We will need to do a med change to in order to get her off the drops. But we will cross that bridge when and if we get to it.

Overall, I still consider this to be a great day for appointments. Her joints look and feel great! Her eyes have hit a teeny, tiny, minor bump in the road. It will be okay. No matter the turn it takes, I have faith, it will be okay.

A much needed reminder.....SLOW DOWN

A friend posted this to her Facebook just now. I felt compelled to share with everyone that I know. Please, read, absorb, follow through and pass it on.

"Long ago you came to me, a miracle of firsts.
First smiles and teeth and baby steps, a sunbeam on the burst.
But one day you will move away and leave to me your past,
And I will be left thinking of a lifetime of your lasts.

The last time that I held a bottle to your baby lips...
Last time that I lifted you and held you on my hip...
Last time when you had a binky stuck inside your mouth...
The last time that you crawled across the floor of this old house.

Last time when you ran to me, still small enough to hold,
Last time when you said you'd marry me when you grew old.
Precious, simple moments and bright flashes from the past,
Would I have held you longer if I'd known they were the last?

Your last few hours of kindergarten, last days of first grade...
Last at bat in Little League, last colored paper made..
Last time that I tucked you in for one last midday nap...
Last time when you wore your beat-up Green Bay Packers cap.

Last time you caught a frog in that old backyard pond...
Last time when you ran barefoot across our fresh-cut lawn,
Silly scattered images to represent your past.
Would I have taken pictures...if I'd known they were the last?

The last dark night you slipped in bed and slept between us two,
When last I read to you of God or Horton Hears a Who!
Last time that I smelled your hair and prayed after your shower...
Last time that we held devotions in the evening hours.

The last time you were M.J. in our games of give-and-go...
Last time that you made an angel in the melting snow.
I never even said good-bye to yesterdays long passed.
Would I have marked the moments...if I'd known they were the last?

Last piano lesson, and last soccer goal you kicked...
The last few weeks of middle school, last flowers that you picked.
Last time that you needed me for rides from here to there...
The last time that you spent the night with that old tattered bear.

Last time that I helped you with a math or spelling test,
Last time when I shouted your room was a mess.
Time and life moved quicker, taking pieces of your past.
Would I have stretched the moments...if I'd known they were the last?

The last time that you needed help with details of a dance...
Last time that you asked me for advice about romance.
Last time that you talked to me about your hopes and dreams.
Last time that you wore a jersey for your high school team.

I watched you grow and never noticed seasons as they passed.
I wish I could've frozen time, to hold on to your lasts.
For come tomorrow morning life will never be the same.
You'll pledge forever to your girl, and she will take your name.

And I will watch you, knowing God has blessed you with this day.
I never would have wanted, Luke, to somehow make you stay.
They say a son's a son until he takes for him a wife.
You're grown-up now; it's time to go and start your brand new life.

One last hug, one last good-bye, one quick and hurried kiss...
One last time to understand just how much you'll be missed.
I'll watch you leave and think how quickly childhood sped past.
Would I have held on longer....if I'd known it was your last?"

Poem was quoted from the book, "Rejoice", by Karen Kingsbury.

Thankful

Many times I am asked how I get through the day without crying. I answer that honestly, some days I don't. Some days I do cry, I do get angry. I think that's normal. But overall, I know that we are blessed, despite our trials. Of course I have days that I wish that our daughter wasn't battling a chronic, painful disease. But, that's the hand we were dealt. I recently had a friend tell me that she is "Currently having a disagreement with God." You see her son was diagnosed with a chronic illness. She hasn't yet seen the gift in it. Or, possibly she has, but still can't "forgive God" if you will. That may offend some people but that's how I see it. When we or a loved one are handed a crappy deal, we get angry with God. What do you do when you are angry? Stay angry, or forgive. I see the blessings that her sons disease has put in her life, I think she does too, but she isn't THERE yet. For the most part, I am okay with where we are. Sure, Jenna has daily pain, wakes up stiff and unable to bend her legs or flex her feet, takes way too many medications, gets sick from those medications, has muscle weakness, walks with a limp, struggles to keep up with her peers. But you know what? I have recently learned to just watch her, just silently observe. I'm still not sure if she even notices any of these things about herself, but if she does, she doesn't seem to mind. So why should I? She adjusts and presses on, so why shouldn't I? She really is quite amazing! Just last night I was watching her sit in the recliner, playing her brother's guitar (she is teaching herself!). She stopped strumming, wiggled around, adjusted her legs, sat and looked at them for a moment, it was clear they were hurting her, then she settled and began strumming again. AMAZING! Yesterday morning I heard her coming down the stairs on her bum, slowly, because her legs and feet weren't cooperating. When she got to the bottom, she stood up, got her backpack and went about the tasks of getting ready for school. AMAZING! There is beauty in everything, even in suffering. It is up to US to find that beauty!
There is a Mom right now, sitting in the hospital with her one and only baby girl. They are on day 27 in the hospital. On day 28, she celebrates her 5th birthday. That will mark 5 years of being sick. Now, how would YOU handle all of this. Here is how this Mom handles it....with grace and thanks.....

Some of the most beautiful man made things I have ever seen were all the amazing stained glass windows in Paris. They remind me of Eleanor. When the world looks at her unfortunately they see a bunch of broken glass and pieces that don't fit perfectly. When I see her I see all the small pieces coming together, the many breathtaking colors forming an awesome little girl.I will never understand why God made her so different but I know that she was made perfect and in His image. She is exactly the little girl He knew she would be and I am blessed beyond belief to not only know her but to be able to say she is MINE!

World Arthritis Day

Today, October 12th 2011 is World Arthritis Day. A day to bring awareness to a disease affecting nearly 50 million Americans and 300,000 children. That's just in America! I really would like a WORLD number affected. We ask for just one day, one day out of 365 that the world hear and learn about this disease. Not a month, a day. One day to wear blue, light up blue and talk, out loud, in public about ARTHRITIS. It is almost as though people are ashamed. Arthritis doesn't get the same glamour as some other diseases. I just don't understand this. Not that other diseases aren't worthy of the attention and awareness, but really. In the month of October, try going anywhere without seeing the color pink. A few months ago it was another disease asking the world to go blue, and the world did. And who doesn't recognize the awareness color of yellow and what that represents. All of these diseases are deserving of attention. I repeat, ALL OF THEM. Including ARTHRITIS. Maybe, just maybe, one day my daughter's disease will get the attention it needs. Or better yet, a cure will be found and we can make this all a distant memory.
She asked me this morning, "Why is today World Arthritis Day?". So that people will know, so that maybe they will learn and understand.

Is it too much to ask?

I just want her well. I want her to know a day, a full 24 hours of feeling WELL. I know that she can't remember what it's like, because lately, I can't even remember it. I can't remember what she was like before she got sick. Was she always this angry? Was she always this emotional? What were her habits? Did she always act this way? I feel like I am mourning the loss of my WELL child. Now, do not get me wrong. I do realize that she is much better off than some children, I get that. But some days, that just isn't enough to soothe the ache that is in my heart. I WANT HER WELL. Is it too much to ask? I used to pray for, hope for remission for her. Remission you say? Like cancer?? YES, remission, like cancer! Because, like cancer, Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis has NO CURE. So, as of right now, all that we can hope for is remission. As of right now, she can never be 100% rid of, cured of this disease. This disease that encompasses and endangers her entire body. At the JA Conference this Summer I got a new perspective on remission. I was able to meet many teenagers and young adults that have never known remission, yet are leading full, happy lives. I then realized that if Jenna never went into remission, as long as she was happy, I would be okay. Well, today I'm not feeling it. Today, I WANT HER WELL. Is it too much to ask??
Today I feel like screaming as loud and long as I can until I can make people understand what we go through. Today I feel anger and resentment at the hand we've been dealt. Tomorrow is another day...

2011 Charlotte NC Jingle Bell Run/Walk For Arthritis

A few months back, I got an email from our local Arthritis Foundation office asking me if Jenna would like to be the Youth Honoree for the 2011 Charlotte Jingle Bell Walk/Run for Arthritis. WOW! I felt so honored that they thought of my girl. What an amazing opportunity for us to do what we are so passionate about, raising awareness that kids get arthritis too. At first Jenna was not thrilled about this. She is a very shy, introverted child. She does not like any attention drawn to her. At the JA Conference she seemed to gain a bit more acceptance and understanding of the disease. Somewhere along the way she has also gained some sort of self assurance, some confidence maybe? She is apparently performing songs and dance in her kids class at church. She is very excited about a concert at school in which she hopes to be chosen to play an instrument. She has also gotten excited about being the Youth Honoree for the Jingle Bell Walk/Run. :o) If you would like to donate, join our team or form one of your own, you may do so at charlottejinglebellrun.kintera.org

The Eyes

 So, the GREAT news is that her eyes remain inflammation free! I am still so stunned by this. That means that since December of 2009, the Uveitis has not acted up for her. That is incredible given the difficulty we had getting it under control. The combination of Humira plus Methotrexate continues to keep her eyes healthy. It amazes me, it brings me great joy, yet I can't help but also feel a bit of guilt. You see, it isn't so easy for everyone. There are still so many little ones that struggle to find the right combo of meds to tame this beast. I hate that. I feel so lucky, so very blessed. And again, I must stress, to ALL of those that doubted and STILL doubt our move down here, had we stayed in Maine, this would NOT have happened.
Since her eyes are still healthy, we are not comfortable playing around with her meds at this time. Despite the fact that her joints continue to flare off and on, it just isn't worth the risk to her eyes to play with the meds. I called her rheum office and scheduled her 3 month follow up and asked that the nurse please speak with Dr. V about keeping meds the same for now. I got the call back before days end. What a relief, she is FINE with keeping her on the MTX and Humira for now and we will see how she is at her appointment in November. PHEW!
So for now we wait and see, again, what this disease will do. It is so hard to just let things be. To not be hyper vigilant, always on edge, questioning every little thing. I don't even know how to explain it to someone with a healthy child. But, for now, I am going to just let things be as they are. I am going to try not to ask her every morning, every afternoon, every night, "How are you? Are you okay? Are you sure?" I need to back off. I need to TRUST that if something is wrong, she will tell me. We'll see how this goes.

She was so upset about missing art class AGAIN this week. It's her most favorite enhancement class. What a pleasant surprise this was. The Art Cart was out at Duke Eye Center. :o)